Consider the following Dig, Assume that all the three tables have a column Is_Deleted by default it is set to 0… I want to update Is_Deleted=1 field of Customers table where CustId=2 only when the rows containing CustId=2 and Is_Deleted=1 in Orders and OrderItems
Tables… I dont want to use Cascade option.. Any suggestion

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Easiest way is EXISTS. I assume you want to check both Orders and OrderItems. This also means you only filter on CustID once.