Given the schema:

What I need is having every user_identities.belongs_to reference an users.id.
At the same time, every users has a primary_identity as shown in the picture.
However when I try to add this reference with ON DELETE NO ACTION ON UPDATE NO ACTION, MySQL says
#1452 – Cannot add or update a child row: a foreign key constraint fails (
yap.#sql-a3b_1bf, CONSTRAINT#sql-a3b_1bf_ibfk_1FOREIGN KEY (belongs_to) REFERENCESusers(id) ON DELETE NO ACTION ON UPDATE NO ACTION)
I suspect this is due to the circular dependency, but how could I solve it (and maintain referential integrity)?
The only way to solve this (at least with the limited capabilities of MySQL) to allow
NULLvalues in both FK columns. Creating a new user with a primary identity would then look something like this:The only drawback of this solution is that you cannot force that a user has a primary identity (because the column needs to be nullable).
Another option would be to change to a DBMS that supports deferred constraints, then you can just insert the two rows and the constraint will only be checked at commit time. Or use a DBMS where you can have a partial index, then you could use the solution with an
is_primarycolumn