Specifically thinking of web apps,
(1) why are relationships(ie:foreign keys) in RDBMS even useful?
The web apps I write have logic built-in that validates user input against required fields. I see no real use for foreign keys and thus no real use for relational databases.
Besides, if I were to put all the required field validation logic in the RDBMS(ie:MySQL) it would simply return a vague error. At least with PHP-based validation I know which field is missing and I can notify the user(though with Javascript-based validation this would almost NEVER happen anyway).
(2) Was there a point in the past where RDBMS were useful for some reason or is there a reason they are useful now that I’m not aware of?
I really need some insight on this topic. I’m simply can’t come up with a good answer.
I will come at this from a different angle.
I work at a place where we had a database that had no foreign key constraints, default values, or other data checks whatsoever in their initial records database. The lead engineer’s excuse for this was something similar to what you have described above. “The application will ensure the referential integrity”.
The problem is, we did not have a standard data layer (like an object relational mapping) over the top of the database. We had multiple programmatic sources that fed into the same tables. It was funny because after a while, you could tell which parts of the code created which rows in the table. Sometimes the links lined up, sometimes they didn’t. Sometimes the links were NULL (when they shouldn’t be), and sometimes they were 0. We even had a few cyclic records which was fun.
My point is, you never know when you are going to need to write a quick script to batch import records, or write a new subsystem that references the same tables. It behooves us as programmers to program as defensively as possible. We can’t assume that those who come after us will know as much (if anything) about how our schema should be used.